How to cope with rejection as a wedding celebrant

I remember the first time a couple decided not to book me for their ceremony. I was GUTTED! What didn’t they like about me? Was it something I’d said? Did I talk too much and not listen enough? Did they find me too expensive? Was it my colour? What did I do? What didn't I do?

Honestly, these questions played around in my head for days after their knock-back. This particular rejection by this couple had hit me hard because before it I’d had a perfect run of enquiries turning into bookings. 

Up until that point, every couple who I’d either spoken to or emailed had gone ahead and booked me. So this one came as a big shock, as I’d been totally convinced of my celebrant superpowers, and this brought me back to earth with a bump.

After moping about for a few days my husband who is quite often an unintentional therapist said to me,‘ look, you can’t control what they do or why they do it, so just let it go.’  He said this partly to help me and partly because he was sick of me moping about, but whatever his motivation, he was right!

I had no idea why the couple chose another celebrant over me, and no matter how much I tried to figure it out, it got me nowhere. So there was no point in beating myself up about it.

Not getting a booking with a couple who we click with, really smacks. But one thing I’ve learnt is that you’ve got to get over it as quickly as the couple came and went from your life!

In my latest podcast episode, I look at why getting turned down by a couple can feel like a big deal and what you can do to not let it get you down or even worse, lose your confidence and mess with your mojo. 

Listen here or get the latest episode from Spotify, Apple Podcast or Stitcher for Android. 

And as always let me know what you think!

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